In a Relationship

Do You Need a Label-Maker when Living Together?

If you are living with someone, what are you planning?

Are you on the road to marriage, or are you just playing house? Because somewhere in there, she will be wanting to know. I don’t care what “agreement” you have, one day she will ask the question, “Where is this going….?”

My view is that if you are living with someone and telling them that you love them, you had better A) Be moving to put a ring on it!, or B) Make sure you grab a Sharpie and write your initials on all your shit so you can find it when you break up.

Go on, be strong!

Should You Date a Co-Worker?

People wonder if it’s okay to date someone at your place of business. Well, that’s a hard answer. The truth? People do it all the time. Does it work? Well, just about the same as dating anywhere else.

Some do, some don’t.

But if you are at the same job, you have a much larger problem should things go south!

One of you is going to have to leave the situation, or your work environment will get pretty ugly. The only remedy for any of this is either don’t date at work, or just be so damn awesome that no matter what happens, everyone will be fine with it.

You Wanna Do What with Your What Now?

There are going to be questions during your relationship that will need answering. Or requests that you want to make. Just realize that going in, and get prepared for it. The best way to deal with them is straight forward, head on, and immediately.

What do I mean?

For example, she does something weird when she eats and it’s driving you nuts, you can either leave it alone and let it fester till you explode and really hurt her feelings, OR you can address it early on in a constructive way by being honest and tactful and sharing how you feel.

You need to know what each other wants, expects, and needs in a relationship in order to move forward.

So ask questions and answer them. Be truthful even when it may hurt some. You would want that honesty from her, so give her the chance to reciprocate.

Remember, a small discomfort early on is preferable to a huge, soul crushing, and quite possibly, relationship ending altercation after letting problems fester.

And believe me, she has issues with you that will only come out in the end, if everything goes south. And yes, she will blame YOU. So take those problems away by being open, honest, and truthful from the start.

Go On, Be Strong!